Spiritual Questions and Answers with Radhanath Swami

What to do when things don’t go our way even after praying? Radhanath Swami answers…

By on October 5, 2010 in Insights with 147 Comments

Pray in DistressQuestion to Radhanath Swami: Sometimes we start chanting God’s names praying for some self interest. And it so happens that it is not fulfilled. Then we either stop chanting or we loose the mood of chanting. How can we cope up with this kind of situation?

Radhanath Swami: We must learn how to pray from the scriptures and from the great personalities. Jesus was happily praying on the cross. Have you ever been through such a situation as he had to go through? Srila Prabhupad was offering his prayers even after several heart attacks, even after whatever little he had was robbed at New York City. Prahlad Maharaja, as we read in the Srimad Bhagavatam, was praying even when he was being thrown in pits of snake, in blazing fire, and in oceans. So yes, we should learn from these great souls.

Good ParentsBhakti is the science of unconditional love. We are enthusiastic for the sake of devotional service, not for the sake of getting our way, because God knows what is best for us. We shouldn’t be like a spoiled child who just holds a tension when it doesn’t get what it wants from the parents. The parents know what the child should have and what it shouldn’t have, whereas the child may not understand what it needs. When you were a child, did you always understand why your parents did not give you something? It’s very difficult. But we had faith that they knew what’s best for us. Similarly, we should have faith that God knows what’s best for us. He is our perfect parent.

What is this faith? Faith is not just a superficial belief. Real faith is scientifically and philosophically substantiated by authorities, realized by others, realized by ourselves, and can be practically perceived and proven in our lives. Real faith in God can be established on a scientific, philosophical, and logical basis, whereas atheism can never hold ground on this basis. Faith comes by associating with people who have faith and engaging in activities that nourish faith. And when we have that faith, even when things are not going our way, we are equally enthusiastic. It really doesn’t matter whether things go our way, what really matters is our integrity and our sincerity. A great person is one who maintains integrity and enthusiasm whether or not he/she gets what he/she wants.

God wants you to become StrongIt’s one thing to not get what we want. But it’s harder when we get the exact opposite of what we want. Even in that case we should thank God and just go on. That’s what gives us inner substance and strength. Even an athlete gets strong through the process of resistance. Yes, if you want to actually gain strength, the more the resistance, the more you can gain. When you lift weights, you are resisting the laws of gravity. The weight is pushing down and you are pushing up and then you become strong while dealing with the resistance. If you say, “It’s too heavy, just forget it. I will lie down, eat potato chips and watch television,” you will never become strong. Similarly, study is all about resistance. The mind wants to think about the girl next to you or something like that, but you have to just resist. “I have to just resist and focus on this mathematical equation.” That’s how you become intelligent, through resistance. So in spiritual life there is much resistance coming from both within and without, and through that we become powerful. We become empowered to the degree we are willing to face that resistance and grow with it.

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  • Siddeshwar Bhat

    Beautiful… just beautiful…… I can’t think of a better word……

    • Mukesh

      Words fall short in glorification of Radhanath Swamiji… 🙂

  • mukund

    I liked the statement by Radhanath swami which says that God knows what is best for us. If that is so, then we do not have to worry about anything in life.

  • Ydas

    I liked when Radhanath Swami saya “But it’s harder when we get the exact opposite of what we want. Even in that case we should thank God and just go on. That’s what gives us inner substance and strength”

  • Y.Raja Shekar

    This is one of the best answers Radhanath Swami gave with amazing analogies. This is much hope giving answer by Radhanath Swami and if we just follow in his foot steps then we will surely become more stronger and sufficiently equipped with to face any kind of reversals.

  • jyoti chilka

    All Glories To.H.H.Radhanath Swami Maharaj

    Very nice,, Thank you Maharaj

  • Santosh Mamdyal

    Hari Hari

  • Vidya Patham

    ‘A great person is one who maintains integrity and enthusiasm whether or not he/she gets what he/she wants.’ This aptly summarizes what the aspirations of a spiritual seeker must be while on a bona-fide path. Thank you Radhanath Swami.

  • Madhura

    Amazing!

  • seema

    brilliant article

  • Ravi Garg

    Radhanath Swami has a unique way of answering questions so beautifully…..simply great

  • Mangesh Kulkarni

    Simply wonderful

  • Shyam Bihari Das

    We go through life facing all the situations described here, but with no realization. Listening to Maharaj, so much now becomes clear and simple. Thank you so much Guru Maharaj.

  • Bhaskar

    Thank you so much Radhanath Swami maharaj for explaining in the most graphic way how we should view different situations that comes in our life

  • Manish Raikundalia

    Very nice!!

  • Swapnil Gaonkar

    “We become empowered to the degree we are willing to face that resistance and grow with it.” This statement touched my heart. Thank you Radhanath swami for rnlightening us.

  • sangharatna bhamare

    if you want to actually gain strength, the more the resistance, the more you can gain. Maharaja knows how to make the best even in worst situation.

  • Abhijit Toley

    Super answer! We dont want to make things go our way, we just want unconditional love for God! Too good!

  • Dipti Gaikwad

    Many people become antagonistic towards God because of their suffering. But this clear understanding given by Radhanath Swami shows how He is actually our best friend and well-wisher.

  • Deepak

    What a wonderful formula Radhanath Swami Maharaj has given here.

  • Arabinda Sahoo

    Prahald Maharaj’s example is a great learning where how he went through torturous situations with equanimity and complete dependence on Lord.

    Thank you Maharaj.

  • Meera Sharma

    Radhanath Swami Maharajah has explained so nicely,
    “A great person is one who maintains integrity and enthusiasm whether or not he/she gets what he/she wants”. and then
    “We become empowered to the degree we are willing to face that resistance and grow with it”.
    Thank you Maharajah.

  • Sumit

    Radhanath Swami has given very nice and simple examples to give us the formula of how to fix our faith in the words and activities of God and His devotees.

  • Aishwarya

    Wonderful!

  • Vaishali Kamat

    Radhanath Swami has very nicely answered this question. It is a fact that when we are in difficulties, we blame God and wonder why He has to do this to us when we are so sincere. However later on we ourselves realize the reason behind it.

  • Jagdish Majethiya

    Very Insightful – We become empowered to the degree we are willing to face that resistance and grow with it. Thank you so much Maharaj for the perfect answer.

  • pranav gore

    PAMHO. Its amazing..really.

  • hrishikesh mafatlal

    Excellent analogy of the athlete pushing against resistance to become strong. If we don’t lose faith in the face of resistance, we will emerge stronger.

  • Jitendra Pardeshi

    Thank you Radhanath swami Maharaj for educating about the correct perspective one needs to have to emerge stronger in life.

  • Uday

    Normally we have selfish motive behind our prayers. Radhanath Swami puts prayers into right perspective in this beautiful answer.

  • Siddharth Hindlekar

    Wonderful…thank you swamiji

  • Ydas

    Completely fresh perspective by Radhanath Swami – athlete pushing against resistance to gain more strength – excellent analogy

  • H.H Radhanath Swami Maharaj has nicely explained about the need for determination. Thank you Maharaj.

  • ULTIMATE EXPLANATION ON DETERMINATION.
    THANK YOU MAHARAJ.

  • Mangesh kende

    Outstanding ans by Radhanath Swami ..Thanks

  • Veena

    Thank you Maharaj for such valuable teachings!!

  • ks Subramanian

    We become empowered to the degree we can face the resistance and grow with it. How wonderful. If a prayer is not granted , God wants us to work harder and become stronger.
    Deep, scientific faith can help us to remain enthusiastic in the face of adversity and things do not go our way.

    Thank You Radhanath Swami! We ae energised by your kind message.

  • Siddeshwar Bhat

    That’s the price to attain perfection: faith.

  • Nikhil Wadhwa

    Nice.. thanks for this..

  • Nikhil Wadhwa

    Radhanath Swami is a great saint!

  • malathi santosh

    It’s one thing to not get what we want. But it’s harder when we get the exact opposite of what we want!!!! Thank you Radhanath Swami

  • Rani

    Beautiful explanation. Thank you Maharaj.

  • Thanks for the lesson, really interesting. Hare Krishna!

  • Servant

    Jai, many wonderful enlightening analogies put together by His Holiness Radhanath Swami Maharaj. Very nice.

  • I got a real pleasure reading you.

  • Gurrappanaidu

    Wonderful analogy and reply.

    Thank you so much Maharaj for enlighten us.

  • Sujit Mehta

    So essential to understand and follow these basics, Radhanath Swami has layed it out straight upfornt.

  • Good article. Thank you.

  • Guru

    Very nice article !

    All Glories to HH Radhanath swami maharaj

    Thanks for sharing us.

  • Yogita Jagannathan

    Thank you Radhanath Swami on this wonderful article on overcoming our inner weaknesses and gaining strength from the obstacles we face.

  • Santipur Nath Das

    great answer. all doubt clear.

  • Suman

    Amazing realizations. So true.

  • Aishwarya

    “It really doesn’t matter whether things go our way, what really matters is our integrity and our sincerity.”-A lesson to remember.

  • Rajeev

    This is really an amazing answer. Thank you very much for sharing.

  • bipin

    All Glories To H.H Radhanath Swami Maharaj

    A very elaborate and profound explanation with prolific analogies.

    Hare Krishna

  • Sundar

    Wonderful reply. Giving lot of faith. Thank you for sharing

  • Vinay Rachh

    very practical answer

  • madhavi

    Radhanath Swami ki Jai!!

  • umesh

    amazing answer by Radhanath Swami. particularly the last part dealing with “resistance” is really amazing.

  • Sunny

    My God! What an indepth analysis and perfect solution…very inspiring to go on with the struggle of resistance on spiritual path

  • Mahesh

    Beautiful. So wonderful.

  • krishang

    thank you very much

  • Now, I really understand through Radhanath Swami’s teachings how it makes perfect sense to know how God gives us what we need but not what we want.

  • N Swaminathan

    Simple and great.

  • mitali

    Thanks for sharing the insight of prayers.

  • Phani

    I can not express in words how this answer gave tremendous boost to me to resist provoking situations in my life. My Heart Felt Thanks To Radhanath Swami Maharaj.

  • Govind

    We grew up praying to God to grant our wishes and we expect results everytime we pray. But our experiences weren’t always positive. Here is a superb explanation that should help us reconcile our experiences and expectations.

  • Shra1wiz

    Amazingly inspiring article!

  • duruvan

    Thanks very much for sharing

  • Srinivas Pendyala

    Haribol, this article gives so much hope and strength to combat the evil forces within this heart, which continuously try to pull our real self, down. Thank you so much Maharaj for this greatest words of wisdom.

  • jayshree shinde

    excellent answer….Radhanath Swami thankyou for explaining this so beautifully

  • Viraj Kamat

    “Faith comes by associating with people who have faith and engaging in activities that nourish faith.” Thank You HH Radhanath Swami for sharing this simple process to obtain faith.

  • Sid

    Haribol! beautiful points by Radhanath Swami…

  • Anil Timbe

    It’s practical question and perfect practical answer. Thank you Radhanath Swami.

  • Satish Rane

    I liked the statement by Radhanath swami which says that God knows what is best for us. hare krishna

  • Vinay Rachh

    Brilliant Answer

  • Chetan

    Perfect practical answer by Radhanath Swami

  • Shraddha Jain

    Radhanath swami is a perfect counselor.

  • Shraddha Jain

    Wonderful answer by Radhanath Swami.

  • Phani

    I am reading this answer by HH Radhanath Swami often to get some strength. Really amazing answer by His Holiness.

  • gopasana

    wonderful wonderful reply by HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj

  • Milind M Churi

    The great article.Thoroghly explained by Radhanath Swamiji.Thank you very much.

  • duruvan

    thanks very much

  • Nitya Tarangini Devi Dasi

    really encouraging and motivating…thank you sooo much maharaj!!!

  • kumar

    thank you very much

  • Madana Kishore Das

    Amazing answer. Really enjoyed reading this.

  • Poonam

    Very eloquent! I hope to embibe this quality of resistance and perserverence in my own spiritual life.

  • Usha Gaonkar

    We can learn from the life and teachings of great souls like Radhanath Swami that if we keep faith, pray and are convinced that the Lord will take care of us in whatever situation we may be in our lives will be more fulfilling and satisfying.

  • I need to read this every day and through such reguler association i will have no Question.

  • Radhanath Swami has explained his points using great analogies

  • Piyush Singh

    Perfect answer to a very sensitive question. Thank you Radhanath Swami.

  • Dr. Vivekanand Shanbhag

    Radhanath Swami has simplified the mystery of this bewildering question that every one has.

  • Mukesh

    this is a great vision…. wow…

  • Faith that God knows and does the best for me can help us to be always grateful instead of complaining

  • Manish Parmar

    The analogy of Resistance is very appealing.

  • srinivas

    Very inspiring. Examples given are so wonderful, easy to understand and remember to put in practice. Radhanath swami ki Jai!

  • Utkarsh

    Very Very inspiring article. Radhanath Swami again stresses on the importance of good association and to come out of our comfort zones.

  • Vibhu Goel

    Thank you Maharaj for showing the way of unconditional and unmotivated love.

  • radhasangi devi dasi

    Thank you Maharaj for the gentle reminder. I always hear you quoting the verse from the 10th canto of srimad Bhagavatam where Brahma prays to Lord Krishna :
    “tat tenukampam susamikshamanam……….”
    I seek your blessings to follow this principle.

  • Naveen

    Just too good, wonderful explanation by Radhanath Swami

  • Jitendra Pardeshi

    Thank you Radhnath Swami Maharaj for the amazing perspective of looking at things in life. Such persceptions comes only by the dint of scriptural understanding, deliberation and practical realizations through devotion to the Lord, seated in everyone’s heart.

  • Sunil

    Thanks Maharaj for a wounderful explanation of this resistance force and how then only we become powerful. The same way we have to resist our bad thought and senses to move here and there to become stronger in our spiritual life

  • Vraja Manjari dd

    Beautiful! Just what I needed to hear!

  • It’s a very relevant question for me.
    And the answer is quite befitting some due to our conditioning we forget to be dependent on God n God reminds this by giving us what we need not what we want.
    Deepak Dubey

  • Karthik

    Very inspiring!

  • Vinay Rachh

    Fabulous Answer

  • Lata B. Mahida

    Very Good Article
    I Like Very Much

  • Jitendra

    A perfect understanding about the science of prayers and how to nourish our faith. Really genuis.

  • Poonam Rohra

    Hari Hari…thank you maharaj for the excellent article.

  • prabhat kumar

    Amazing answer by Radhanath swami maharaj.

  • vaishali kamat

    God is our ever well wisher and therefore He can never do bad to us. We do not have the patience and faith in Him and therefore we get disturbed when things do not go as per our wishes.

  • Vinayak

    Amazing. This is called unconditioned & unmotivated devotion what ever is our condition always remember and serve god.

  • Swapnil Gaonkar

    Superb explaination by Radhanath swami

  • Unconditional and uninterrupted loving devotional service is what defines Bhakti as per SB.

  • Dr. Vivekanand Shanbhag

    Radhanath Swami’s deep perspective of so called negative discoraging things in life is hope giving

  • satish Iyer

    Inspiring article

  • Sandhya S

    Beautiful answer. Makes one realise the heart of God how it always thinks for our good.

  • krishna daya dasa

    So much hope giving to face the resistance.

  • bipin

    All Glories To H.H Radhanath Swami Maharaj

    A real masterpiece.

    Hare Krishna

  • Bhavesh

    What an amazing articulation and profound reply!

  • Dr Memane Nanasaheb

    very practical answer given by H.H. Radhanath Swami

  • sachin komble

    Yes resistance makes us strong and solid in our life.

  • sachin komble

    very nice

  • saurabh

    Thank you very much Radhanath Swamni for such an answer, I was desperately seeking ans to this dillema. You have practically shown from your life that even if the situations are not at our way still how to remain fixed in our service to lord. Thank you very much.

  • nishita

    simply inspiring!!! sense control in spiritual life can be similarly accomplished ithrough resistance as explained here by maharaj

  • Naresh Jethwa

    Thank you.

  • Babita

    Your faith towards lord is very strong maharaj. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  • Nilesh

    nice artical… gr8

  • Milind M Churi

    Very nice analogy by Swamiji.I am highly impressed by statement “Bhakti is the science of unconditional love. We are enthusiastic for the sake of devotional service, not for the sake of getting our way, because God knows what is best for us. ” This statement will give me inner strength to overcome my failures in practice of spiritual life.Thank you very much.

  • gopasana

    very hope giving and inspiring answer

  • Saurabh Devgun

    So much content in it!!

  • Rajesh

    I really liked the example of resistance to become strong. It really make sense.

  • Pranjal Dixit

    Amazing article and lot of things to realize from this.

  • Rahul Abhay Kamat

    The beauty of HH Radhanath Maharaj’s answers is that we already know them, but never thought about it & we just could not relate it with our life, until Maharaj explains with a superb example. Just like the one he mentioned about a weightlifter. Amazing!!

  • Vinayak

    Thank you for Maharaj for inspiring us.

  • rahul

    very uplifting and enlightening answer!!!
    Thank yo so much Maharaj!!

  • Jainendra

    Absolutely great and eternal answer gives substantial wisdom to overcome difficulties.
    Thank You!!

  • Jagannath Dham Das

    All Glories to Srila Radhanath Swami for making us understand how can practice spiritual life each moment with a grateful heart by giving one of the best definitions of Bhakti , “Bhakti is the science of unconditional love. We are enthusiastic for the sake of devotional service, not for the sake of getting our way, because God knows what is best for us.”
    Thanks !
    Hare Krishna !

  • sanath

    brief but very indepth/powerful answer…

  • ravinder patel

    Thank you maharaj for explaining reasons

  • govind

    Thank you very much for wonderful answer.

  • Dinabandhu Caitanya Das

    Powerful article by Radhanath Swami here! Through simple examples of child, body builder and athlete he convinces us of the need to face resistance and become strong in our spiritual lives.

  • Venkat

    It is true and very nicely and graphically presnted by Swamiji

  • Vidya Patham

    We become empowered to the degree we are willing to face that resistance and grow with it. Thank you Radhanath Swami for this wonderful answer.

  • Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very interesting answer

  • Ankush

    Hare Krishna Maharaj!!! Thank you for this very inspiring article. I hope I would be able to face that resistance and grow with it.

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